Pardon my biased opinion, but I really think it is more irritating trying to play with out of tune violins than out of tune oboes!
I had a rehearsal for the Messiah last night. It was one of those rehearsals that I knew I didn't really need to go to but had to attend because they had never heard me play before. (Oboe is one of those instruments that is either played really well OR NOT).
I am just happy I got there alright (country road signs are REALLY small) and I am happy to be playing regardless of the level!